Taboos in lolita: Being poor?!

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It is not about looking for advice. But I feel there is taboo about not spending - carefully saving over more than a few months or using money in much more needed place. But what I see online is spend, spend, spending, people who make incredible bad economic decissions and even encourage others to do it. Especially nembies, If you are not willing to spend, you are ita(indirectly saying)...
I don't care about others economy, but I really dislike the last one. Why? Because someone is channelizing their own low self esteem over on somebody else. Especially if the person is new, It take very much to stand up against it, talking of my own experience.
I feel egl has luckily eneough grown out of it, but some communitys still do it(like Reddit).

Do you think it is problem we as community encourage people in always not so wise spending?
What do you think about being poor?