"I just don't get it!"

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Discussion post!
Is there anything (motifs, activities, goals, etc.) in lolita you just "don't get?" Not necessarily dislike, but simply don't understand, or can't see the appeal of? 
Please try to refrain from devolving into a replica or fur vs. no fur debate.  

I personally "don't get" Chocomint stars, fawn collars/capes, and why some people are adamant about having all parts of their life conform to the lolita style.