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Hello boys and girls. I'm working on setting up a meetup for lolitas in Connecticut. My mom is helping me out a bit and she insists that I come up with something that we can all do. It is going to be held at a coffee shop. I'm trying to think of some little activity we can have because I don't think just sitting and talking would be very fun. So, for people who have done/been at egl meetups before, what did you do there? I can't think of anything.

Thank you for your help in advance! <3

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[miyu-sakura.livejournal.com]

Well....

As I mentioned in my Gigantic Meet-up of Doom Tutorial (http://www.livejournal.com/community/egl/1313418.html), you can pretty much do anything for a gothic lolita event. It's basically an event with a dress code.

So, if there is a mall nearby, you can have a shopping trip. If there is a fancy hotel in your area, you can take high tea there. If there is an aracade, a DDR tournament...

Basically, think of anything that you'd normally do for fun, and then add some fancy petticoats.

If you want to bend more towards the traditional "gothic lolita" event, I'd suggest looking for things which have a more elegant or social feel. A street festival is a good place to take lolitas. Also, anything that is Japan-related is appropriate, if a bit dorkish.

[http://users.livejournal.com/_zutazuta/]

Yeah, I know, I read the tutorial and I love it!

What I meant, though, is that since its being held in a coffee shop, I thought we should do something. Like play a small game or make something, or things like that. I just can't really think of anything specific. The tables of the coffee house already have chess on them, but I think we need something that we can all do together. Maybe something that they can win a prize from?

[miyu-sakura.livejournal.com]

The best way to make a party work is to keep it moving. A coffee shop is a stationary place, best suited for a group of people who know each other and are friends. They "move" the party through their conversation and familiarity with one another.

If you have a group of people who aren't familiar with one another, you need to move the party in terms of activity. Therefore the shop is a good meeting place for quick intros and light conversation, but you will probably need to physically move the party along with another location and activity. Then, after people have had fun together and done a group activity, the air of familiarity will increase enough to allow you some downtime at a similar "resting" place like another coffee shop.

I suggest:

-Meet at coffee shop, do basic introductions
-Walk to another nearby venue for photo ops
-Walk/travel to another group activity that will keep people lively and interested
-Conclude at the shop or another resturant for a light meal and conversation.


It sounds really cold and logical, but parties have a "science" to them just like anything else. A party requires a system of circulation and movement just like a machine.

And as hostess, your job is to be particularly lively and able to converse because you are basically the "oil" in the engine of the party.

[http://users.livejournal.com/_zutazuta/]

Thank you so much! I'll definetly go do some research and see what we have around. We only have less than 12 lolitas going and most of them know eachother, but I think some of the activities you included sound like a good idea. <3