First time

[memeloli.livejournal.com]

Ive been getting my bestess friend into egl. And she is becoming my partner in crime. She actually went out in dollie clothing by herself yesterday and said she recieved the craziest responses. Which got me to remembering the first time I myself went out in dollie clothing.

Mine was actually positive, a lady was looking at me really hard and I was beggining to get a little scared because i thought she would say something really mean but instead she came up to me and said "you are the most adorable thing ive seen yet, just so cute" and she proceeded to tell my mother that I was adorable and that she loved that i had my own style.

Now ofcourse ive gotten mean responses but i was wondering if/how you guys recieved responses to the public the first time you were your dollie gear.

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Comments

[memeloli.livejournal.com]

Thats terrible! ive had some ppl say some mean things but never had anyone DARE spit on me. God i hate closed minded ppl

[missmeganmaude.livejournal.com]

I usually get positive comments when I wear my dolly type clothing out.
But then again, I'm so out-landish most of the time that it's hard to tell if dolly clothes get any more negative response than anything else.
Normally people tell me how cute I am, but I'm 5'10" and usually wear platform shoes that make me even taller. Are you really going to walk up to me and say nasty things? Prolly not. *shrugs*
I mean I get funny looks, but a lot more compliments than insults.
It's actually really irritating... even when I'm trying to look all dark and threatening and evil people will walk up to me and tell me how adorably cute I am! T____T
What's really funny is how little girls will look at me and point and tell their mommies how pretty I am and then to see their mommies look at me and either smile warmly and agree or drag their daughters off in irritation and disgust.

I'm sorry you got spat on!
That's really nasty and rude!
It's no way at all to treat a cute dolly!
*hugs*

[memeloli.livejournal.com]

I think thats the case with me my clothes are crazy whether their dollie of not. I wish i was that tall man 0__0 im so tiny. Thats why i usually carry around my body gaurd referred to as big dolly in school shes about the same height and no one dares say anything nasty to me when shes around hehe. On the streets though im defensless so i just roll with the punches however they come. And i to hate when im trying to be menacing and i get "oh your so cute" its like NOOOOOOOOoooooooooooo thats not what your supposed to say.

[silentsecret428.livejournal.com]

maybe one day you can post pictures and we can see, no ? =n.n=

[memeloli.livejournal.com]

tomarrow i go to houston and i plan on taking lots of pics then so i will remember to post them

[silentsecret428.livejournal.com]

hai! =n.n=
we will be very excited to see them :)
make sure you smile for us, ok? ^ _ ^

[horsey5588.livejournal.com]

Houston?! OMG! You live in Texas!?! Where atttt??? SE Coast here!

[memeloli.livejournal.com]

Thats crazy! im in san antonio man this is why i keep saying texas needs its own loli tea party

[horsey5588.livejournal.com]

Hehehe. I wouldn't be able to go though...*cries* Not for a few years anyway...xD Parents are all, "OMG INTERNET PEOPLE!!! *holds up a cross*"

heh

[celestethegoth.livejournal.com]

Well... being one without alot of dollie gear (I'm a spanner on a sewing machine and I can't buy anything from ebay or from overseas) What I do wear looks more gothic than lolita and I get lots of nasty comments. Despite living in whitby... People at school are worst. I'm the only gothic-y person in my school

Re: heh

[memeloli.livejournal.com]

yeh i hate nasty ppl, theres really no need for it. I just make fun of them being so..... "normal" and its funny to see they react worse than when the make fun of me

Re: heh

[celestethegoth.livejournal.com]

-chuckles- I'm actually having to be escorted around school by teachers now. I put in a massive complaint after I walked out of a lessons after some girl was being incredibly rude and making up a load of Sh*t about me. I despise of rudness. So now at lunch I have to be escorted to the music block where I sit in my formroom -sweatdrop- Its kinda embarassing but better than the abuse I get

[gtkyo.livejournal.com]

The first time, people kept asking me if I was in a play of some kinds... I still get asked that often *laughs* once, when I was standing near a corner, a guy came around it, say me, and started laughing really hard *shrugs* Weirdest thing was when a little girl insisted I was a manequin/large doll and tried to lift up my skirt O_O

[memeloli.livejournal.com]

hahah the thought of someone insisting im a big dolly manequin is the best thought ive had for the day. The "being in a play" one happened to me once in school when a play was actually going on and i was on crew, ppl kept asking me what part i was and i was like well i did paint the sets but thats about the only "part" i have.

sweet attitude

[mmymoon.livejournal.com]

I've gotten a lot of nice comments from old ladies, too!
Despite what people might think about old people being conservative, I think most old ladies appreciate EGL -- closer to what they remember a nice, sweet fashion to be! ^_^ Old ladies may be our secret weapon!

The only negative comments I've gotten were from soccer moms and sorority girls, the flag-wavers of the mediocre and unoriginal. (One sorority girl told me I looked "retarded" when I showed up for my school pictures in my usual "pretty clothes" loli outfit!) I'm amazed they have the guts, because, like you, Electroncat, I'm 5'10", plus platforms, and have a pretty strong frame... I just stared at the one offending girl for a while, until she got nervous and walked away.

Heck, the only time I've gotten a bad comment when in regular goth attire (for me, probably stripey socks, my everpresent maryjanes, and a black skirt & shirt) was some night relatively after halloween, when a guy (in a SUV, of COURSE) yelled "Hey, Halloween was yesterday!" Yeaaah... so clever... *rolls her eyes*

I think one reason I don't get bad comments is because I live in a fairy liberal area -- but another reason is that I do my best to maintain a sweet attitude! (Also, a lack of facial piercings and shirts that say mean things helps.) *giggles* For some reason, old ladies think pink hair-in-pigtails is adorable, not scary! Go go Lolita-chan!

Re: sweet attitude

[memeloli.livejournal.com]

Aww yes this is why i love old ladies. oh and the halloween coment.... jesus how old is that one, god it seems jerks are running out of material. Ive been told i have a "satanic evil deathly glare" that seems to freak ppl out and that might be reason most ppl stop what their saying before they finish.

[calondara.livejournal.com]

I can't remember if anyone has been particularly rude to me. Everybody just staaares. And I think that sure, just stare if you feel like it ^^'''. Oh, and a lot of people that I kind-of know, relatives and friends friends and such keep looking up my skirts to see what makes 'em so poofy ^^''. Silly people.

[memeloli.livejournal.com]

yes the stares, god the stares actually though i think i kinda like it, i really want to be walking down the street one day acting like i dont see them staring at me and then JUMP AT THEM AND YELL OOOGY BOOGY BOOOGY!!! really loud and see what happens.

[calondara.livejournal.com]

I usually forget that they're staring at me after a while :D But then you see someone really obious staring at you and you go"...er ^^'''".

There was this small girl in a store today, she was looking at me as if I had eaten her grannys dog, and she was blaming me for it @.@''' Weird girl.

[h8machine.livejournal.com]

A few days ago I was at the mall and dressed up more EGA than EGL (high necked lacy poets blouse, flowy black skirt, various crosses) and some old woman kept asking me questions about where I got my clothes (she didn't know what Goodwill was and I had to explain it to her O_O) Then she asked if I was trying to look like Dracula. I don't know if she was being rude or not because she had a heavy accent. T_T. She made me so nervous though!

[memeloli.livejournal.com]

yeh that is really freaky.... i would have been creeped out too.

[yoroshiku.livejournal.com]

I like it when old people comment me. The first time was when I had blue hair, I was shopping at the store and this old couple walked up to me and said "Your hair is awsome, it's such a pretty color".. I seem to have a way of scaring negative comments away, most people just stare and keep nasty comments to themselves. Thankfully.

however.. I dont have very many dolly type outfits (.. darn broken sewing machine.. *cries*) but .. I plan on getting a few more. I actually enjoy the strange looks, more so when dressed in more 'gothy' clothing. Just stare at them in sort of a blank way.. and they'll get nervous and look away or just leave.. ^_^;; ahh.

Grocery Stores are great for your first time.

[darkshadelily.livejournal.com]

I remember my first time all decked out, a year and a half ago...

-story mode-

I was with a friend whom was also dressed, and we went shopping at Meijer's {A store similar to Walmart} To pick up cheesecake and notebooks {I think.} A group of teenaged girls passed us making snide comments and giggling under their hands. But we just ignored it and giggled right back.
-end story mode-

Almost every elderly woman I meet thinks I'm cute,regardless of what I'm wearing.{Especially my Grams. -gush- My Grams bought me my first Gothic+Lolita Bibles} It's because I'm chubby, and chubby lolita-chans are uber cute. Like little dollies.

Had someone spit at any of you and I was with you, I'd probably have gotten violent and beat them to death with my Supa Teddy. Supa Teddy doesn't like injustices. Especially when it has to do with fellow Lolita-chans. I'm normally Child-like and soft spoken... but when someone hurts a Lolita-chan, I turn into an angry fightin' Elfy Lolita-chan. That's when the white gloves and dainty cameo bracelets come off. With Underhanded insults and flinging tea saucers and all.
-hisshiss-

Ahem. Pardon me.

-Samantha-

[bloodwire.livejournal.com]

I dress EGL basically everyday when I come to school, and while I only really started this year, the first response I got when I got to school was the horribly stereotypical, "It's, like, not the 18th century!"

I was somewhat pleased, but then again, some what hurt. My feelings are easily hurt. ;;

The first time I was really loli in public was early in the summer. I've always been EGA/romantic goth, but my fun lolita side, which I finds suits me better than constant angst, just came out this year. Anyway.. when I first went out in loli, I got several responses of how cute I was, and one request for a date by a much older man. I was REALLY scared, because he really thought I was like eleven or twelve.. I'm 5'1" and look younger, but really. ;; Onaiiiii~

Any advice for a newcomer?

[(Anonymous)]

I previously wrote a rather lengthy message...but it failed to post and I had to start over. ~_~

But this was my mail idea:

Being a small 16-yr-old girl on the lower end of the high-school social heirarchy, with little support from my friends, I want to become a part of this lovely niche.

I figured that you all would know best how to answer this question:
How does a lolita-chan pull off the look with confidence and style while still being her soft-spoken and sweet self?

I will be the first in the area to dress this way, and I want to make a positive impression, maybe even inspire others to follow my lead. ^.^;

Please e-mail any replies to " kageorge@tokyo.com ", as I do not have a livejournal account.

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[prittylittlelie.livejournal.com]

I have alot of piercings and used to have realy long solid blue hair, and I dress... difrently (though not EGL yet). I'm pretty friendly and usualy aproachable and smiling and I don't get ANY negative reactions. It's all about how you carry yourself and what kind of energy you put out. Within 3 minutes of talking to me conservative middle aged women will agree with my views on piercing! With a smile on, not many people will ridicule you.